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AM's avatar

I didn’t need to be slapped so hard but I’ll accept it graciously

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sms's avatar

Oops!

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Silvia R's avatar

Hahahahaha touché

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manna's avatar

I feel like you just held up a mirror to me. thank you <3

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Luvnemo05's avatar

Excuse me? We're not close enough for you to be talking to me like that tf??

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sms's avatar

Wdym? Im right behind you

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madeed's avatar

so comforting to know that there’s others who had to go through something like this

i think it’s so hard to watch your own light fade

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lover's avatar

"i think it's so hard to watch your own light fade." WOW

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Kezhia Baloji's avatar

if this doesn’t explain how a daughter feels, then I don’t know what does

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Latrice Latoya's avatar

Story of my life!!

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Caroline's avatar

Lovely writing and piece. Really resonated with this, especially the points about deferring to laziness / passiveness - I found a lot of the points in my most recent post reflected in your thoughts.

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Cheesard's avatar

this! deferring to laziness from fear of failure.

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Luna's avatar

i never knew where it really stemmed from until now

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Leanna's avatar

This whole piece is literally just me. This is so well written, thank you so much ❤️‍🩹

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sms's avatar

Im sorry to hear that, i truly appreciate you taking the time to read it though 💕

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Sana!'s avatar

This is everything i’ve been thinking about lately and it was an incredible read. Considering it cowardice is a huge perspective shift and it’s oddly liberating.

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sms's avatar

Thank you so much for taking the time to read it ❤️

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Sophie's avatar

I appreciate your perspective! As I watch my younger sister grow up, I see that she is often more willing to try new things because failure is normal to her. That's how kids learn more about the world. When we get to the point where we avoid things because they are painful, we miss the point. Though we forget it, we do grow more in difficulties than in safety. Great essay!

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sms's avatar
Apr 7Edited

Sometimes, even though we want to try new things, we physically can’t anymore because of the mental trauma put upon us by our caregivers.

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Rane ✩'s avatar

Trigger warning next time 🫶🏾

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ethan's avatar

as someone who stopped writing because of the fear of not achieving perfection and trying to pick up the pen, this really spoke to me. seeing myself fade like that over time was a hard feeling. this is a resounding piece, thank you for writing!

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Areesha's avatar

Oh.

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𝔪𝔞𝔯𝔲𝔢𝔩𝔞 ₊˚✩⊹. ♡'s avatar

did you just stab me? rude

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sms's avatar

Had to be done

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Kay's avatar

Fuck it you're so right. The pain of not meeting your own expectations can be dehabilitating though.

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Shang's avatar

This is actually did my mom to me like she don’t like making me mistake and I should follow what she want the worst part is I didn’t hear her asking me what i want in my life 🙂

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sms's avatar

Im sorry to hear that, i truly appreciate you taking the time to read it though 💕

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Hibaaa's avatar

Wow just wow

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sms's avatar

<3

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